tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1811893258346327939.post5393455386101899354..comments2023-07-24T22:29:02.523-07:00Comments on Tangled Triangle: I...think BJJ has made me bilingual...Meganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13229873505463921052noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1811893258346327939.post-22750606259903313282011-02-13T09:26:38.272-08:002011-02-13T09:26:38.272-08:00This is so fascinating Megan. To have a unique exp...This is so fascinating Megan. To have a unique exposure to the differences in how men and women communicate and express emotion is interesting...and I can see how it could be emotional overload as you mentioned. <br /><br />What really blows my mind is how the bonds are developing without much conversation. For most women that would be unfounded but it makes practical and psychological sense that it works that way in the gym with the men.<br /><br />Great post.Trudyhttp://windmillperception.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1811893258346327939.post-67893151210173832212011-02-13T00:42:21.379-08:002011-02-13T00:42:21.379-08:00I think you both have a point. I do know that guys...I think you both have a point. I do know that guys handle stuff differently. When I was younger, I didn't "get it", but having spent time in male dominated sports and professions, and watched guys interact with one another, I agree that there are some fundamental differences in how things are seen and how things are expressed. A lot of the time, things get complicated when behaviour is viewed through the lens of another gender and interpreted that way. <br /><br />In very many ways, I find men much more straighforward. I used to fall into the trap of reading too much into things, and interpreting men wrongly. Ha, still do sometimes!<br /><br />My sister, who has a Ph.D. and a career in male dominated scientific research, and who holds a black belt in Japanese Jiu Jitsu, said the following when I told her of some of my experiences in martial arts:<br /><br />"You have entered the mysterious male world... It is interesting how males give you RESPECT if you do mix it with them. They get rid of their inhibitions and their preconceptions more easily than women but it's all performance based. Interestingly I have observed the same phenomena in the male dominated world of science. You must dish out at times! Otherwise, no respect from the blokes. But if you are feisty, at the right time, they will be very nice to you."<br /><br />That correlated with my observations. And that's why when a girl reacts emotionally (teary) to some set back, it doesn't cut it with the guys. They think we are weak and "girly", when in fact the tears are from frustration and anger rather than pain or sadness. <br /><br />It would be interesting to hear some guys out on all this.fenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05422718635385568842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1811893258346327939.post-21273296422467580492011-02-12T22:05:14.923-08:002011-02-12T22:05:14.923-08:00I never thought about this the way you explained i...I never thought about this the way you explained it, but I think you have something here. I have felt a lot of the same things you were describing. I also think it can be hard sometimes to be one of a handful of females who regularly train. Sometimes I feel like the guys don't understand my side of the spectrum, you know? It's not a source of conflict. It's just there. I feel foolish sometimes when I, well...act like a girl! lolA.D. McClishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07019434821749308292noreply@blogger.com