tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1811893258346327939.post6633989200670683024..comments2023-07-24T22:29:02.523-07:00Comments on Tangled Triangle: The rape of a teammateMeganhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13229873505463921052noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1811893258346327939.post-29394698124608242572013-01-16T18:09:48.598-08:002013-01-16T18:09:48.598-08:00Great write up & spot on comments! Thanks, Lad...Great write up & spot on comments! Thanks, Ladies.<br />christyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15052595624837394265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1811893258346327939.post-84873001683652885862013-01-12T15:10:39.136-08:002013-01-12T15:10:39.136-08:00Very true Trudy...and I think this is what most of...Very true Trudy...and I think this is what most of us having this discussion are tripping over. We need to get past the very elementary level of thinking that rapists should be punished and victims are innocent...true, but that leaves the situation unchanged, basically ignoring the concept of prevention. <br /><br />Felicia, I'm not surprised. I'd like to hear that report myself...kinda curious how much of a stigma she's carrying outside of the BJJ world because she practices a martial arts too. Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13229873505463921052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1811893258346327939.post-80027807926818103922013-01-12T14:18:23.952-08:002013-01-12T14:18:23.952-08:00You make a great point. Simply because we SHOULD b...You make a great point. Simply because we SHOULD be able to have a society that isn't a rape culture, riddled with misogyny and shaped by sexism and patriarchy doesn't mean we "can" expect safety because anything else is wrong. Our history reveals otherwise. Thus, while I bear ZERO responsibility for someone choosing to violate the law and basic humanity and choosing to rape, I still analyze where I drink, why, who to be around, which route to take, so many things. I know that I cannot control the choices rapists make. <br /><br />And you're right, if women are participating in self-defense related courses such as BJJ and others, it means we are acknowledging that there are things we can do to reduce risk and fight back--NOT that we are claiming we are responsible for the actions of a rapist or engaging in victim blaming, as I reject that. <br /><br />Sorry to hear this happened in your BJJ community, but sadly in this world, such is life...<br /><br />Very heartbreaking story. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1811893258346327939.post-53081679644086128492013-01-12T03:48:48.690-08:002013-01-12T03:48:48.690-08:00I saw a link to the news story where the female re...I saw a link to the news story where the female reporter insinuated that the rape was the victim's fault. It was subtle, but it was there. And all I can say about that is WOW.Feliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09017194727231120284noreply@blogger.com