Tuesday, October 29, 2013

21 Life Improvements from BJJ: 16-A Bittersweet Taste of Reality

If BJJ had a flag, it would be flying at half mast right now.

The Schultz/Maldonado trial is wrapping up. The fact that it happened is bad enough. The results that are coming down are sickening, but what I find most disheartening...and heartening honestly, is the reactions. BJJ has a tendency to lean toward the positive, which is awesome and amazing, but in all the camaraderie and focus on the happy things in life, some realities can be easy to forget.

I was reminded today, watching a man, on Facebook, defend his actions...not lie...not say everyone was mistaken, but declare that those actions, which were at best, complete disregard (and possible active contempt) for a teammate...were innocent because they weren't found to be wrong in court. There are few things that give me chills like people who consider the law to be the ultimate moral authority. As sickening as that was to watch, right now, I'm bracing myself for watching the regular guys...very much the minority, but still guys we all train with...defend the indefensible. I'm bracing myself to watch the evil next door.

Watching the reactions in and of itself and accepting, tiring though both may be, is good. I'm reminded of the time, when I was 15, and the guy I had a massive crush on showed up on the local news. He was always well dressed, well spoken, smart and polite. He was less so after being arrested for raping, murdering and dismembering a woman. That moment changed the way I saw evil as distant or "othered".

I don't believe that all life improvement needs to feel warm and snuggley, or even interesting and enlightening...or even personal. Sometimes an improvement is just the beauty of seeing the truth of some of the ugliness of humanity.  


SavageKitsune said...

I want everybody to post their opinions far and wide. Because those in our community who think it's cool to have sex with a drunk teammate and then leave her lying alone on the concrete in the middle of a January night- AT LEAST- I want to know who they are. The thing is, most of them don't have the balls to post under their legal names.

Megan said...

That's what kills me about this...take the law out of the situation and it's STILL horrible.

SavageKitsune said...

Yes. We need to call them out. People who think that's A-okay, they should have no problem posting their opinions under their legal names so that we all know who they are. And whom to keep our eyes on. And whom to keep our younger female teammates the hell away from.

Megan said...

Mmmhmmmm...especially that last part.